Why not having friends at work?

Many say that at work  you’d not have friends, because you’re in an area where you have to show your professionalism and remain detached.
When I hear these things, especially from people who work as human resources professionals even at high levels, it makes me really think: “Have I correctly heard? Really?. The funniest part is that then they usually say: “We must be a group and trust each others aiming to achieve our organizational goals” . Organizations’  success is clearly based on collaboration and will towards a common goal. Maybe when you read the “quote” above from surely will come to your mind a thought like: “but, is it not exactly the case of being friends?” You trust your friends,  you help them and often work together to achieve a goal.  Hypocrite HR professionals also add slogans like: ” for us, collaboration is core !!!  ” And then, why do not be friends even at work? . It will look even maybe bad to say, but for example when you need information or an explanation, probably you know the door of a trusted person .
Diapositiva1With what just described I’m not saying that your organization will run a holidays’ atmosphere or of  a leisure center; clearly, each professionals have to understand where her/his influence as a friend and colleague starts and finishes. If you have to say “NO” , it has to have same value for a friend or for a colleague; it is a matter of being fair and respectful. HRs instead of saying “you should not have friends”, should improve aggregation and collaboration, sponsoring events and occasions of networks’ building. There are also risks about friendships; firstly,  people could not be good in distinguishing two spheres (friends vs colleagues).  Second, there is the so-called mechanism of conformity; it is clear that people influence you and you are effected in some cases by their behaviors and attitudes; here it comes the role of HR  and managers to view and advise, thereby avoiding distortions of being friend at work. Being a manager, means giving also advices, not only ordersSolution in the case of “drift”? Occasionally do a reshuffle of teams and responsibilities, in order to balance again created status quo.

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